Friday, 13 March 2015

Publishing unfinished posts.

I know it seems odd that I've published so many unfinished posts, but I'm not in the same place now as I was when I began to write them so it somehow doesn't quite feel right to try and continue with them when my view point will have altered away from the initial intention when writing the posts.

I have published them because I feel it's important to still express how I was feeling at that time.

Unfinished 9

What do I do when I don't know what else to do?

Take to Blogger it seems.

I'm now beginning to understand how much it hurts for others to see someone they love and care about more than anything in such a bad way

2014 (Unfinished 8)

So I am more than aware that I have been absent from writing on my blog but I have been far from mentally stable

I may be quiet but I have so much on my mind. (Unfinished 7)

I've not had much time to myself lately, I'm always promising myself that I'll blog daily but I just don't get the chance, having five minutes to myself would be a miracle let alone the time to sit down and write my blog.

I guess there will always be times in your life where things are exceptionally busy and to use my life motto, nothing worth doing or having is easy. I hope things do get easier and less busy for me I'm sure they will though I suppose, you just have to experience the tough times to be able to appreciate the easier ones.

I'm really struggling to focus on what I need to say at the moment or what it is that I want to say so I think I'm going

Unfinished 6

Tuesday 28th October 2014

Do you ever find you don't know what you're doing? Don't know what to do for the best?

You want to help but you don't have all the right answers?

Do you ever find that sometimes your needs get lost amongst everyone elses, against mundane tasks?

Unfinished 5

It's funny how life can change in a matter of moments, of minutes, days, weeks, months or even years. If you look at where you are now in your life and where you were five years ago I'm sure for better or for worse your life was totally different, and if you look at one day from the next the variation is similar.

There's the good days and the bad days, the times when you've never been happier and those moments when you've been at rock bottom. People that were once a part of your life aren't anymore, new people come along and some people stay for the duration. We experience times of greatness and also times of sadness, times when we feel we made the right decisions, but also times where we feel we made mistakes. They'll be times when we think we could or should have done better and other times when we are full of pride and confidence of what we've done  and achieved.and times full of

They'll be times when we all say and do things that we didn't mean and times when we express how

It's enough (Unfinished 4)

Firstly I'd like to apologise for yet again a massive delay in updating my blog but unfortunately family circumstances have got in the way and I have had to prioritise that.

This post is actually a bit of an odd one for me to write about because it came out of something that I did without even realising.

I had the great privilege of part of my volunteer work to speak to young people suffering with a mental health condition about their recovery and I had such good feedback, I was told that I'd inspired the young people to believe that they are able to get better, that they can change and things will get easier.

Having spoken afterwards to the manager she told me that all of the young people had awoken feeling really enthused and inspired

Everything Happens For A Reason (Unfinished 3)

I'm writing this post, sat outside my college on a bench in the smoking area, with a girl I've become close friends with as she practises playing her guitar and singing to me.
It's moments like this in life that make everything worth while and put life in to context.

Life doesn't have to be about the times of misery, or feeling lost but about those little moments that make everything else make sense.

Life shouldn't be counted on a scale of how long we live, how much we achieve, grades or results, or how many breaths we take but by those moments that can't be replaced.

It's hard to even express how privileged I am to be sat here, listening to beautifully written, beautifully performed music, with a girl who I can guarantee will be a friend of mine for life, with beautiful weather.

It really begins to put in to perspective what's important in life, and how important it is to grab hold of special moments and treasure them

Unfinished 2

It's hard to find the words when there are none, when your mind can barely put a sentence together, you feel trapped, like you're inside yourself, your body both physically and mentally weak from being drained for too long and a tiny voice inside of you is trying to scream to be let out but no-one but you can hear it, but to you it's not a tiny voice, it's deafening, it's all you can think about, wanting to escape, to release, to be free,  but it's not possible.

How can you escape your own thoughts, your own fears and misconceptions?

How can you try to encourage yourself to believe in a better life, a better world when there is nothing you hate more than yourself?

Unfinished 1

It's hard to find the words when there are none, when your mind can barely put a sentence together, you feel trapped, like you're inside yourself, your body both physically and mentally weak from being drained for too long and a tiny voice inside of you is trying to scream to be let out but no-one but you can hear it, but to you it's not a tiny voice, it's deafening, it's all you can think

Daily Act of Kindness

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, a lot of talking and a lot of listening. Plenty of people have told me how inspirational I am, how I’m hard working, amazing or incredible, and this isn’t me blowing my own trumpet at all, but it got me thinking

What are the qualities that I have that people value, is there something special about me, or is it just something about this generation that means that people that do little things that make a big difference like I do are either rare or taken for granted?

People are quick to throw negative remarks around, to speak in a derogative way or to look down their noses at people, but they don’t take the time to help, to listen, to ask or to understand.

It’s not hard to make an impact on somebodies day, be it positively or negatively, the language that you use can make a real impact, saying please and thank you, respecting people’s differences and respecting them for who they are as a person, rather than focusing on what they might be makes a big difference.

Just because you don’t agree with someones life choices, views, opinions or beliefs it doesn’t mean you should be disrespectful to them.

So your skin might be a different colour, you might be a different gender, a different height or weight, a different sexuality, you might be of a different religion or faith, of different age, you might dress differently or choose to follow a different path, but everyone does, and the one thing that is normal about the world is that everything and everyone in it is different.

The only valid definition of the word normal these days, in my eyes, is different.

The things that children are being taught not only by schools, but by friends, families and peers too are not inclusive of acceptance, pride, understanding and selflessness.

We aren’t taught that normality is in itself weird, I mean what kind of concept is that?

We’re forced to conform and follow rules, which I understand in some situations is a necessity but we’re not taught that it’s okay to be ourselves and to be proud of who we are, we’re not encouraged to accept diversity.

But the things that we do can teach others, the words and language that we use can make a difference, so instead of putting people down, lets build people up, instead of rushing everywhere lets take time to appreciate the little things in life, if someone needs help don’t walk away because it’s not your problem, help them.

If you don’t know something about the way someone lives their life, why not ask, and educate yourself rather than making judgement on opinions you’ve formed without knowing the full reality.

I dare you to do two things, each and every day to make a difference.

  1. Do something small to help somebody you know, to show them that they’re appreciated, make them a cuppa, compliment their outfit, listen to them.
  2. Do something small to help someone you don’t know, smile at them, hold open a door, give some change to somebody on the streets.

I don’t do anything that you can’t, we can all give our time for other people, whether it’s lending a listening ear, complimenting someone, standing up for what you believe is right and supporting good causes, challenging peoples language or actions, taking the time to learn more about things you don’t understand.

Everyone feels alone sometimes, everyone has a bad day, everyone needs someone, and you never know when that tiny action you make could make a difference.

But as well as being kind to others, be kind to yourself, learn to love the world, if you don’t like something about it then you have the potential to change it.

Let’s stop wasting our time with hatred and negativity, put that energy and fury in to something positive.

The lessons we teach aren’t always taught at school but by our actions every day, so lets be more thoughtful about our language, about the things we say and the things that we do, if you have an issue with someone discuss it with them, don’t tell the whole of Facebook but not them.

If we all took responsibility for ourselves and our actions then we can teach the next generation the most valuable of lessons.

If you take nothing else away from this status take away this:

  1. No matter how busy you are, you can always spare 30 seconds for somebody else, it might not seem like much but that 30 seconds could change your life, as well as the person you give your time to.
  2. Time costs nothing.
  3. Love your elders, do what you can to help them because they fought for our lives, one day you’ll be old and if we teach todays young people to neglect their elders then it will be you being neglected.
  4. Smiling at strangers is not weird, do it, I dare you, it spreads warmth.
  5. Nobody is better than anyone, we were all born equal so lets accept and love each other for who we are, let’s start acting more like equals.
  6. Value everyone, everyone has a story to tell and their story may well change your life, and sharing it with someone may well change theirs.

Stop living in a bubble, the world isn’t perfect, there’s still lots of things in the world that need to be changed and challenged, but we all have the potential to make a difference to the world every single day.

Let’s all take responsibility for the way that the world is, and work together to change it.

I’m going to begin posting on peoples walls again, along with #100daysofhappiness and brand new # #TABS because a tiny action can cause big satisfaction, #dailyactofkindness

If you’re in share and comment on this status, lets all try and spread some more love and let’s all become an inspiration.